A friend of mine at church always ended his prayers with, "help us to find our way in your way." Twenty years later and we have not seen our friends who moved away but I still remember his prayers. I try to remember to say that. What a great thing for us to ask for. I have always heard the safest place in all the world is in the will of God. Of course it is, because then we know we are not messing up His plan! God has guided us to where we are to be. It takes all of the stress out of our planning. Psalm 32: 8, "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you."
When we have major life decisions like marriage, work, children, etc. it can be very stressful. To take the stress out of it you need to know what God's will is for you. Before you can start to find out God's will for you, you must surrender your will. You must acknowledge: not my will but your will be done. To find out God's will for you, you have to do a few things. Talk to God about this. Look to Scripture for answers. Talk to your godly role models. Lean on the peace that only God can give.
When you talk to God about this ask Him to help you find your way in His way. Remember to not do all the talking. Be quiet and listen. Be still and know you are with Him. John 10: 27, "My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me." Go to scripture and He will give you answers through His living word. Remember, it is "living" because you may have read it hundreds of times but this time it may bring new life changing meaning to your life. Talk to godly role models. It is always good to have someone you trust to bounce things off of. Proverbs 11: 14, "For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers." And lastly but so important, lean on the peace that only God can give. If you do not have that peace about a situation then it is not God's will. The more you do this the more you will know by the peace or the lack of peace what God's will is.
Trust God with the outcome. Once God shows you His will and you make your decision, don't second guess. Trust His guidance. Remember He goes before you. Deuteronomy 31: 8, "The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged." The Bible tells us in Proverbs 3: 5-6, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight”.
Let us remember God's plans are better than my dreams!