Boundaries

Most of us have a fence for our pets to keep them safe by putting up boundaries. That makes sense but we find it hard to put up boundaries in our own lives. "The biggest barrier to compassion is a fear of setting boundaries and holding others accountable." After going through tough times, that made me compassionate, I am more serious about setting boundaries. When I set boundaries I am less judgmental and resentful.

Boundaries are a part of self care and they are healthy, normal and necessary. Often we feel guilty to set boundaries even though we know we are enabling negative behavior in someone. Jesus exemplified this. He did not give into his mother and brothers who tried to use their relationship with Him to pull Him away from the crowd He was ministering to. He separated himself from others to be alone with God and to rest. He did not overextend Himself. He kept full of God, full of grace and full of truth. This made Him ready and able to be compassionate and generous in times of interruptions and crisis situations. His time with God gave Him energy and focus.

We all have obstacles that can distract us from the life God has intended. Some of us have the inability to say no or to confront or establish consequences in relationships. These obstacles can sap our energy and discourage us. Our personal boundaries protect our inner core. Matthew 5: 37, "All you need to say is simply 'yes' or 'no'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one." God wants us to be like Him. He wants us to love one another but at the same time, He wants us to require righteous behavior from one another in our relationships. We must remember to forgive, just as Jesus forgives. Luke 17: 3-4, "Rebuke your brother if he sins, and forgive him if he is sorry. Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him."